For those that know me, it may seem strange for me to link these two things together, for others the first may be unfamiliar. I just ask you to roll with me for a bit as I make these connections.
Growing up where I grew up, being the type of student that I was, working where I work, I have always been accustomed to being the only “one” there. The only butterscotch chip in the sugar cookie, the lone speck of cinnamon in the oatmeal, etc. (you get the idea). So I was disappointed but not surprised that my participation in this seminar would be no different. I am attending an intercultural seminar for faculty in Madrid. The demographic of the 18 of us is 98% female, 98% WHITE. Now here’s where it gets tricky for me. Yesterday, it became clear that this may be INTENTIONAL. Here’s what has brought me to this revelation. My examples are communicative in nature, using interactions and nonverbal cues to illustrate where I’m going. I needed time to remove (some) of the emotion that charges this (I gave myself a day), I may still be a touch in my feelings, so please bear with me.
1) There is a way that our facilitator has engaged us as a group. Each one of us have had the opportunity to speak one on one with her. The conversations with others have been around career, research and plans for after the workshop. When it came time to have my one on one, the topic of our conversation: Am I married, have I talked to my kids, do I like living in GA. (huh?). I try to shift conversations around pedagogy and practice and it would be diverted back to superficial topics.
2) This same facilitator has been talking to each and every person about participating in an institute that has the reputation of “pushing forward career opportunities and experiences in the field of intercultural learning.” Participants are being encouraged to apply, to try for the fellowship (it costs about 3K) in order to offset costs, offers to write letters to Department Chairs to help get them there, etc. There is one person that has not been told formally the opportunity to have this “life changing experience:” (insert photo).
3) I received some great news before I left for this trip. My book is finally in print (YAY!!!!!!!!!). I got copies of it just before I headed out to the airport. One of the ladies in the cohort shared this information with the group. The sentence began “We have some exciting news in our midst! One of us just got her book published this weekend…Kami! Tell them about your book.” As soon as she said my name, this same facilitator walked off to look at a flower.
(excuse the profanity)
Now this is not my first rodeo. My first encounter with how “excited” (sarcasm intentional) the ones who don’t look like me are about “us” coming into this field of intercultural training has being a potential threat came in my Masters’ program. I believed I mentioned this in another post, but to ensure my readers are on the same page, I offer it again:
I had the pleasure of having one of the premiere scholars and trainers in intercultural training and development as a professor. When I went to him to ask him to be the advisor for my thesis, he told me that he wouldn’t help me because the topic of my thesis was an area he wanted to break into for consulting and if he helped me and I was good, I would be direct competition for him and take away potential clients. Because they would hire me instead of him because I was Black.
That pretty much sums up what we have in this particular field. Haters are gonna hate. Especially if they think that it will impact their money-making.
So here’s where it I shift to the other part of my title: Makoroto– Celebrate EVERYTHING
Something that I am learning from the people of Spain: they enjoy themselves! With an unemployment rate of 25%, you will still see many, MANY people getting tapas and enjoying their friends and family. Walking in the parks, hanging out in the plazas, laughing and living it up. It seems as though they have not a worry in the world. No one is worried about whether or not they have “enough” money to go out. Food is shared all around the table regardless who orders it. Tapas and drinks are relatively inexpensive in contrast to the value of the euro. You can go out, get a cerveza for $1.50 or a tinto (wine) for $2.00, nurse it ALL night and just time chatting with friends and enjoying the company. I have totally embraced the dining culture and the concept of free time is MY time and MY FAMILY’S time and worth celebrating.
Another thing I learned at our tour of the bullring today. Some people just have to go through a few moments they the rest of the world how powerful they are. Say what you will about the sport of bullfighting, but the torero, is an honored figure in the Spanish community, because they are clear what his job is. They are clear of the risks he faces every time he has togo to work. The awesome thing about it is, he maintains the utmost HUMILITY and stays the model figure in Spanish society. Being a torero is not just a job, it’s a lifestyle. I don’t want to be a torero, but I do want to make sure that I am eating breathing and living the lifestyle of an interculturalist. I may hit a few bruises (as I illustrated above), but the overall impact in my community and this field is far greater.
My application of this concept: Celebrate this opportunity! Marvel in the fact that my vested interest and desire to be a part of this field despite its sociocultural history is my motivation to continue. Will I be the only one at some of these seminars and conferences? Yes! But not to wallow in woe and self-pity, I have the opportunity to continue to shine or bring whoever I want with me. (A just a note, they will be the most revolutionary! ) I love this! The fact I am “alone” (seemingly) in this is motivating me to shape it in a way that I can comfortably place myself and make room for the rest of us. But y’all need to be clear, since I’ll be the one “at the door” for a minute, VIP passes will be given to those who are looking to revolutionize the field AND make a radical difference in our community with the knowledge they get.